I get a lot of mail from women who suspect their partners might be cheating. I also get a lot of mail from women who struggle with great amounts of insecurity, self-doubt and jealousy. These emotional waters make it almost impossible to navigate things like privacy, trust, and clarity. What do we do if we suspect someone is lying to us?
Is it a good idea or a bad idea to read his email, check his phone — anything in that vein — in order to confirm what we suspect?