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Good Idea or Bad Idea: Merging Your Bank Accounts

After you've said "I do," it's time to start your life as husband and wife. Even though being a newlywed is no doubt exciting, there are still a lot of decisions to make, and what to do with your money should be pretty high on that list. Since times have changed since our parents got married, merging your bank accounts is no longer the obvious choice when it comes to financial planning. When you factor in duel incomes, prenups, and a high divorce rate into the equation, couples have to protect themselves and their money. Some couples choose to open one joint account and keep another one separate, others keep all their money completely independent of each others. There are those that believe what's mine is yours and merge everything. But is that a good idea? I've yet to experience this so tell me, is pooling all your money after getting married a good or bad idea?

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sparklestar sparklestar 7 years
There are too many debts for me to even look at this as a possibility right now. I think I would always want my personal, private bank account for my own expenses and wages to go into and then a household bank account where we both put say £500 a month in and it pays the rent and bills and shopping.We use billshare.org though to keep track of our spending and how much one owes the other. ;p
sparklestar sparklestar 7 years
There are too many debts for me to even look at this as a possibility right now. I think I would always want my personal, private bank account for my own expenses and wages to go into and then a household bank account where we both put say £500 a month in and it pays the rent and bills and shopping. We use billshare.org though to keep track of our spending and how much one owes the other. ;p
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 8 years
Thanks for the laughter in between all this nonsense, Asia. You bleepin' rock!:D
Martini-Rossi Martini-Rossi 8 years
bad idea! Married or not! Bad bad bad bad bad bad bad bad bad bad bad idea.I dont see the point or need to join accounts. There are so many different ways to pay bills and do whatever when it comes to money. Keep it seperate at all times.
Martini-Rossi Martini-Rossi 8 years
bad idea! Married or not! Bad bad bad bad bad bad bad bad bad bad bad idea. I dont see the point or need to join accounts. There are so many different ways to pay bills and do whatever when it comes to money. Keep it seperate at all times.
bransugar79 bransugar79 8 years
Also I'd liek to say that I am an individual. I'm not some clone stepford wife who just melted into nothing as soon as I got married. I still have my identity but part of my identity now is that I am half of a married couple. There truly are no gaurantees in life at all but believeing that my marriage will last forever doesn't make me delusional. I can say that with confidence because our love is not about a mooshy feeling it is deeper than that. We see each other for who we truly are and accept that even if the other person is not perfect we will stand by them. There are plenty of times my husband and I don't agree about money we have compeletly different spendign habits and it is an adjustment to not just be able to spend my money the wya I want. On the other hand it opens up communication between us and makes our relationship stronger to work through those issues instead of just side stepping them by doing our own thing. It also means that before I think only about what I want I have to factor in what he and we both need.
bluebird bluebird 8 years
For my fiance and I, it's not a matter of trust at all. I just don't like the way he does his banking! He doesn't keep receipts or a register, and I'm too anal about keeping track of my personal accounts to be able to have a merged account. We've decided to open joint accounts for savings, an emergency fund, and big household expenditures such as a new table and couch. Asia84, I agree with you! As long as everything gets paid and saved for according to your budget, life's gravy!
bluebird bluebird 8 years
For my fiance and I, it's not a matter of trust at all. I just don't like the way he does his banking! He doesn't keep receipts or a register, and I'm too anal about keeping track of my personal accounts to be able to have a merged account. We've decided to open joint accounts for savings, an emergency fund, and big household expenditures such as a new table and couch. Asia84, I agree with you! As long as everything gets paid and saved for according to your budget, life's gravy!
bransugar79 bransugar79 8 years
Jesi_oh I wasn't on my high horse she was. I believe calling someone stupid and silly for sharing their life and their bank account with their spouse is rude. In fact I said if that is how you want to live fine but that's not all of us. Some of us do believe that what's mine is his and what's his is mine and there's no reason to seperate it. Why can't I speak my mind just the way you are? I'm not trying to make you get a joint account but I'll be damned if I let someone say that it's stupid to live my life the way I do.
Great-Sommelier Great-Sommelier 8 years
I guess to each their own, but it just seems suspicious and doomed to go into a marriage with doubts and an out.
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
When you get married, you're in love. Love is like crack. it impairs your judgement. so many gals on here are prime example; "he's perfect, BUT" and we tell them that it's not worth dumping him for. so she marries him. things are great. pop a couple of cute kids. 20 years down the line, someone gets bored, or grow apart (empty-nest syndrome, mid-life crisis, horny, whatever), hubby wants to go. let's just say things are strained at best. the wife is trying to compose herself, and hubby takes $30k of BOTH of you guy's money out of the account. You don't notice until you go to buy some overpriced peanut butter at Whole Foods. it will be like on Good Times when James died; D*MN D*MN D*MMMMMNN!!!
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
When you get married, you're in love.Love is like crack. it impairs your judgement.so many gals on here are prime example;"he's perfect, BUT"and we tell them that it's not worth dumping him for.so she marries him. things are great. pop a couple of cute kids.20 years down the line, someone gets bored, or grow apart (empty-nest syndrome, mid-life crisis, horny, whatever), hubby wants to go.let's just say things are strained at best.the wife is trying to compose herself, and hubby takes $30k of BOTH of you guy's money out of the account. You don't notice until you go to buy some overpriced peanut butter at Whole Foods.it will be like on Good Times when James died; D*MN D*MN D*MMMMMNN!!!
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
I think it all depends on the couple. every situation is unique. and to those who are going on about the trust and forever crap; grandma, yenta, abuela, whomever always use to stash money away for a "rainy day". b*tches was up on game back then...you know, when marriages lasted. My grandmother, who was happily married to my grandfather for 48 years before she passed away, told me "don't be no fool". If I were to marry Dan right now, I would keep the bank accounts that I currently have, and open a joint one with him for household stuff. some couples, one person pays the mortgage, the other takes care of other household expenses. however you want to split it.
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
I think it all depends on the couple.every situation is unique.and to those who are going on about the trust and forever crap;grandma, yenta, abuela, whomever always use to stash money away for a "rainy day".b*tches was up on game back then...you know, when marriages lasted.My grandmother, who was happily married to my grandfather for 48 years before she passed away, told me "don't be no fool".If I were to marry Dan right now, I would keep the bank accounts that I currently have, and open a joint one with him for household stuff. some couples, one person pays the mortgage, the other takes care of other household expenses. however you want to split it.
Great-Sommelier Great-Sommelier 8 years
Oh really, how long have you been married? Your parents? There is no doubt in the mind about their choice in couples who waited until they KNEW their spouse was worthy. Also, if you truly take your vows seriously and the decision seriously, you realize that this is your partner, through thick and thin. People who go into it with doubts and a possible out are just wasting time and money.
omilawd omilawd 8 years
There's always the possibility. With everyone. No matter how in love you are, there's no guarantees when it comes to love.
Great-Sommelier Great-Sommelier 8 years
Would you get married then? I certainly think it is a good idea to not share accounts before you are married. But your last sentence worries me. If there is even an inkling of doubt that something MIGHT happen, don't progress the relationship to marraige.
omilawd omilawd 8 years
BAD! I've seen too many people get into big financial trouble after merging bank accounts with their husbands/boyfriends, and my boyfriend and I are learning from their mistakes. We've agreed to never merge bank accounts just in case something WERE to happen.
radmama27 radmama27 8 years
I think when you are married, everything should be shared jointly.
Great-Sommelier Great-Sommelier 8 years
I didn't say everyone who had separate accounts marriages are in trouble. So please refrain from telling me to, as you so politely put it, get off my high horse. I said if you don't trust your spouse with money, there is a problem. That response is to people who have separate accounts BECAUSE they don't trust their spouse. Relax and don't jump to conclusions.
julieulie julieulie 8 years
I absolutely agree with Jesi_Oh... it's a matter of individual, personal preference. My husband and I have one joint checking account and multiple joint savings accounts/CDs/etc... we do not have individual accounts. Just like I would not say that someone with an individual account obviously doesn't "trust" their spouse, the fact that we opted to have a joint account does not mean that I am naive and presume my marriage will last forever and do not need to worry about what will happen if we wind up divorced. We just sat down and discussed the situation, and decided that if we are living together and sharing everything, it seemed funny to not share all our finances, so it was the choice we made. It works for us, and I think we both find comfort in knowing that it's an easy way to hold each other accountable for ALL purchases, which is helpful when you suddenly transition from a "me" to a "we".
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 8 years
i believe in a joint account--altho i still tried to convince my fiance that we should have separate accounts but he brought up a good point... that just means you have to make sure youre direct depositing into two accounts etc... it doesnt matter much now anyway we pretty much share each others own bank accounts as it is. i pick up this--mine is low so he'll pay a bill with one of his checks... i think you will fight over money even if you have separate accounts... again--my fiance and i have fought about money even with separate accountsbut different folks different strokes
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 8 years
i believe in a joint account--altho i still tried to convince my fiance that we should have separate accounts but he brought up a good point... that just means you have to make sure youre direct depositing into two accounts etc... it doesnt matter much now anyway we pretty much share each others own bank accounts as it is. i pick up this--mine is low so he'll pay a bill with one of his checks... i think you will fight over money even if you have separate accounts... again--my fiance and i have fought about money even with separate accounts but different folks different strokes
Jesi_Oh Jesi_Oh 8 years
So sorry my computer's throwing a wobbly, I definitely didn't mean to post that a million times!!
Jesi_Oh Jesi_Oh 8 years
Great Sommelier, Jmartens and bransugar please try to respect that different things work for different people and get off your high horses. I'm of the same opinion as The Missus because as much as my relationship is a partnership and a lifelong committment we are also two separate people who cherish our individuality (plus I like being able to buy him suprise presents that won't show up in his bank statement!). Please don't be so rude about other peoples life choices, I trust my partner with my heart so our decision to retain a certain level of financial independance is NOT a trust issue.
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