I've been friends with the same person for more than ten years. We grew up together, but we've grown to be very different in our adult life. We still laugh at the same things and enjoy similar activities, but the way we live, conduct ourselves, and general life philosophies are very different. We no longer stay in the same area and generally keep in contact through the phone. I still care for her, but sometimes when we speak or when I do see her, I leave feeling annoyed and exhausted.
This is not a romantic relationship, so I don't feel the need to have a face-to-face conversation about where our friendship is headed. I always want to be there for her, but I feel as of now, my needs as a friend are not being met. I no longer share some of the biggest parts of my life with her. She still sees me as if I'm the girl I was in junior high. Even when I confront her about it, she sort of just pushes reality under the rug. How do I begin to loosen the ties?