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Guy I'm Seeing Texts Me Too Much

Group Therapy: I Feel Smothered by Every Guy I Meet

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This guy that I met at a party messaged me on Facebook. I invited him to hang out with a few of my friends, we all had a great time, and now he's texting me. It's not like he's sending me 100 texts a day . . . he just says things like, "so how was work?" "Going to ____ tonight if you wanna stop by." "OK, text me later if you wanna hang out." "How was your day?" Small talk, etc.

Now here comes the problem: he's only texted me like 10 times ever, but I feel smothered. I'm sure this problem is all me — maybe I just don't like to text? Maybe I just don't know how to meet new people? I told him I had to go pick up a friend last night, and that I was really sick and tired but still making the drive. He texted me an hour later, "Hey, you doing okay?" and I didn't even respond.

It was really a nice, sweet text, but I read the text and thought, "Ugh . . . stop smothering me." In the past, this has happened with about 5 different guys too. They start texting me with small talk, and I think, "Ugh . . . stop inviting me places," etc., and I start ignoring them!

I don't know what my problem is. I'm really not looking for a boyfriend, so maybe I get freaked out by males showing me nice attention? Maybe I don't want them to think I'm interested like that, so I just naturally pull back? I'm really a kind person . . . someone help me before I sabotage another potential friendship!

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