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Guy Talk: Mastering the First Date



The dating game: you either love it or hate it. Finding your match can be difficult, and once you've gathered the courage to make a date, you're faced with a laundry list of decisions: where to go, what to say, what to wear, etc. Here's a little primer on first date etiquette, in hopes it eliminates some of the guesswork.

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First dates can be a bit nerve-wracking; keeping it short and sweet is never a bad idea. If you commit yourself to dinner and drinks, and it doesn't go well, you're both stuck slogging through the meal. However, if the condensed version goes well, you're in luck! She'll be eager to see you and quick to accept your next invitation.

Take the initiative and plan the date from start to finish. Generally, it's attractive when a man takes the lead during the courtship phase. If you know her favorite coffee shop or wine bar, you'll make an impression by taking her there.

One of the most important things to remember, especially on a first date, is to be chivalrous and well-mannered. Although our independence is important to us, your manners still communicate a lot about how you value others. Be mindful of the other people you encounter during your date (other patrons, servers, valets, etc).

Please don't be late. First dates are anxiety-producing enough, and your tardiness won't help matters! Okay. We've gotten you to the table. First date conversation can be tricky: you don't want too much heaviness, yet you want to crack the surface and get to know each other. Bringing your sense of humor is always a good idea! And please, please listen attentively and ask questions. Really engage in the conversation and in the moment.

If you had a nice time on your date, and you're interested in going out again, women like to hear you say it. According to Men's Health, 82% of women report they'd like to be told if you want to see them -- and soon.

Some of this information might just be refresher, but every day people begin dating for the first time and a few tips never hurt. And ladies, I welcome your contribution to this little list.

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Expertdating Expertdating 5 years
It's not all ways easy dating ladies, the most difficult part for most people is taking the initiative to go talk to them in the bar, but don't worry this is a very common reaction, and we can guarantee that all of us feel it to, the trick is to get comfortable with this feeling and remember that dating is a numbers game. When we say dating is a numbers game, what we mean is that you shouldn't let it get to you if you get rejected by a women or two. Everybody gets rejected and there is no shame in that, and if your learn some good social techniques, the number of times you will find yourself in a situation where you get rejected, will be at a minimum.
grl-in-the-world grl-in-the-world 8 years
Guys should be given some sort of printout on this subject...when they're 12 ;) It would rescue us from a lot of odd dating experieces! I agree with Marci that girls should get a manual too! We get a little too excited, and our expectations are often too high.
andaman andaman 8 years
Yes popsugar I would find it really complimenting if a guy says i would like to see you again. It does a lot to your ego doesn't it! It means you've impressed him in some ways. I love it when a guy says i think you are smart. Man that is the best compliment ever. Not the dress, not the shoes, not my boobs, not my eyes or my smile, but my brain :) I think that's a really cool thing to say to a lady!
andaman andaman 8 years
I think if you can make a girl laugh you are half way there!
JAM-the-MAN JAM-the-MAN 8 years
I'm glad to see that dearsugar posts things for guys. Thank you.
Marci Marci 8 years
What about some first date rules for the girls? I think plenty of us girls make first date mistakes without being aware of them. Any thoughts on that front?
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