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I am attracted to a guy in my class. He's really gorgeous and nice. I don't know him very well, but whenever we're close I can feel something very powerful happening to my body. I'm talking MAJOR tingles.

My friends say that the reason that I'm attracted to him is because he never gives me the time of the day. But I do know that he's really shy when it comes to girls. He's only dated one person; one of my best friends. But she doesn't mind, because she said that it was OK if I wanted to date him since she has a new boyfriend anyway.

I find him irresistible, but I don't know how to talk to him. Normally, I find it easy to hang out with guys. What's my problem? Timid Tracey

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Dear Timid Tracey,
You're feeling shy around him because the stakes are high. But don't let you anxiety about the situation psych you out. Remember that he's just another person like you and me, so don't put so much pressure on yourself to be grand or witty - just be yourself. Next time you bump into him, say something like this:

"We've got to stop meeting like this. Are you following me around or something?"

That'll get him to smile and laugh. And since you're kind of asking him a question, it'll be the start of a conversation too.

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