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Harassed By My Doorman

Dear Sugar
I'm fresh out of college and have been living alone in a new studio apartment. I love everything about the complex and the people. I feel very safe there, but I have a problem with one of the doormen. He's there Monday through Friday and I always catch him staring at me and making an occasional borderline inappropriate compliment from time to time.

I don't want to be rude to the doorman because he serves a purpose within the building, but I can't stop getting creeped out by his flirtation with me. I kind of just snub him at this point and then feel badly for being mean.

I am close to an older doorman who is the superior over the other doorman, but I feel like I'd be making too big a deal if I asked him about it. I am just fed up at this point and I was hoping for some advice on how to handle him. Hounded Hailey

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Dear Hounded Hailey
Ugh, what a nuisance to be pestered in your own home. Have your attempts of ignoring him been helpful or is he having a hard time taking the hint? If you feel hounded when going in and out of your building, then speaking up is a must.

Since you are buddies with this man's superior, I would just talk to him about your concerns. Hopefully he can tell your rude and oggling doorman to lay off the sweet talk and just be freindly in a respectful and polite way or there will be hell to pay! Good luck.

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