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Is Having Sex With an Ex OK?

Group Therapy: Is Having Sex With an Ex OK?

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My ex-boyfriend and I recently broke up, but he still wants me in his life and he keeps telling me that he won't leave me. The reason that we broke up wasn't necessarily about the relationship, but it was him because he's been having some problems with his penis and he feels like he needs to bask in his despair by himself.

I do not know whether or not the reason for the breakup was actually because of this reason or not, but it doesn't bother me because we were only in a relationship for four months and he’s still in my life. You see, last night I suggested to my ex that we should still have casual sex and he was in to it.

This doesn’t make sense to me, since he broke up with me because his penis couldn’t stay up. Anyways, my friends believe that I'm using him and playing with his emotions because I'm sending him dirty texts, telling him that I miss him, and I’ve been known to be a siren at times. I guess my friends are afraid that I’ll hurt him because he’s still willing to stay in my life and he still has some emotions towards me. I suppose I am using him, but I have already made my intentions clear. I do care about him, but I want to have fun and it's so much easier to have sex with an ex when my life is so busy. And I do realize that the casual sex could potentially ruin our friendship, but it's only until he either feels comfortable enough to resume the relationship or I find someone better.

So, do you think that having sex with an ex is a good idea?

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