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Having a Sex Life as an Adult Living at Home

"I Want to Have a Sex Life, but I Live at Home"

This week's confession comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Weigh in with your advice below.

I have always believed that honesty is the best policy and pride myself on telling the truth. I know what it feels like to be lied to and do not want to make others feel that way. Having said that, I wonder if I made the right decision in this situation.

You see, I am a 26 year old who never found a full-time job after college and am still living with the parents. I was in a long-distance relationship with someone for 2.5 years and my parents constantly ask me if I was having sex and told me that I should wait. I should wait until reaching 100% financial independence, wait until knowing that we were going to get married, etc, etc.

I felt like my parents were overstepping their boundaries and that it was none of their business if I was or was not having sex. So, I lied to them and told them that I was not. The relationship ended and was my first sexual experience. Now, my parents go around saying " She broke up with him but at least they never had sex."

At 26, I feel shame at knowing that I did lie to them about having sex. At the same time, I feel like it's none of their business and that they should not be inquiring or speculating about the sex life of an adult. Where is the line between lying and keeping your private life private?

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