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Is He Trying to Let Me Down Gently?

Group Therapy: Is He Letting Me Down Gently?

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We have been best friends for six years. We have always been very close, talking on the phone every night for hours and hanging out almost every day. We were never romantic though, partly because I was never interested in him and he was a bit of a player.

I recently realized I had feelings for him. More than as just friends. I sent him a message telling him that I really liked him and I wanted him to date me. That if he had any feelings for me, I thought he should give us dating a chance and if it didn't work out we could still be friends. We are both in our late 20s. I also said if he didn't feel the same way, I would just need some time away from him to get my feelings in check.

He replied that he has really enjoyed our time together lately and would be lying if he said I didn't mean a lot to him and he has thought a lot lately about whether he should risk the friendship to date me. But he is confused as to what he wants and needs a little time to think things over as he wasn't expecting me to spring this on him. I just replied sure that's OK.

I took him at his word. We are practically like a couple without the messing around but recently he has been a lot more touchy feely and flirty. I really think that he may have feelings for me too but may just not be ready to get into a relationship; especially with his best friend. And so he needs to think. But a guy I know thinks that is just his way of being nice and is not wanting to date me but not wanting to be mean. I don't know what to think. What do you think he may mean, and should I say anything else to him or just wait until he contacts me again?

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