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Group Therapy: Married Couple Seeks Threesome at Brothel

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I'm a 35-year-old woman, and my husband is 30. We have been married 8 years. Our sex life has always been good. The last 2 years we have really opened up about our fantasies.

We started with talking and telling, then watching and doing, now we are thinking about realizing them. We have decided to pick someone online that works at a brothel in Nevada.

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I have always wanted to have things done to me by a woman, and my husband would love to watch, then finish with oral from both of us on him. They will not be having sex or kiss, he is grateful for any show.

We are planning a whole trip from where we will go, what we will wear to every little detail. It has us crazy horny nonstop. We need to bounce this off someone to see if we are crazy, it's not something we can talk to our friends about it.  Our trip will not be for about six months to a year from now. Thanx for any info.

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sallys66 sallys66 5 years
WE did and my advice DONT !!!! Its better to of kept a fantasy !!!
Jake2010 Jake2010 5 years
I'll be really quiet... you won't even know I'm there.... unless you need me for something... :)
Jake2010 Jake2010 5 years
Interesting.... can I come for the show too? I'll pay my own way....
BiWife BiWife 5 years
Lol @ DebbieReed's post. Not everyone has as prudish a view on sex & gender roles as you two apparently do. I certainly advise great caution in a situation like this, but one is far from crazy to want to be with a woman who is open about her desires. I would say one is crazier for wanting a woman who only (says she) wants her man & never fantasizes about anything else. Why? Because it means you want a woman who is either obsessive about you or lies to you about what she really thinks. it's a given that humans will - often inadvertently - fantasize about someone other than their current partner. Besides, it is really hot (imho) to watch my hubby effing the brains out of some girl, just something about seeing it from a different perspective than when I'm on the receiving end that turns me on. He feels likewise about watching me do as much to a girl. Not everyone is (or ever will be) in a relationship like ours, but for us a relationship like this is exactly how it should be. What matters is that those in the relationship (whatever its parameters) are open & don't hold anything back, and that both/all partners' wishes are respected, so that good compromises can be made (assuming a variance will occur at some point). So sad that so many people are so restricted & repressed in their sex lives.
Janine22 Janine22 5 years
Does your husband realize that sex workers in a legal brothel generally do not give oral sex to a man without a condom on? (For his own and her protection). I cannot see it being that satisfying for him if you both go down on him and he is wearing a condom while it happens. Secondly, I have to agree with Venus in the sense that I don't see it being an intimate or lovely experience with a prostitute. She is doing it only for the money. I understand that she may be a good actress, or act like she is really attracted to you, but you will not know for sure. Also there is the aspect of being watched, the idea of it could turn you on in fantasy but the reality might be uncomfortable and contrived, especially in an artificial environment like a brothel. Now, I am assuming that you want the prostitute to perform oral sex on you? How do you know that her mouth is disease free? She could give you an incurable STI like genital herpes or genital warts. Even if she is regularly tested, I seriously doubt that they test her throat for these things. ( I know that the large majority of porn stars have herpes and hookers have considerably more partners than a porn star does). She could easily pick up these diseases from her other female customers (assuming that she does not use dental dams when going down on women), or her sex life with men that are not customers. If she ever engages in unprotected oral sex with men (some prostitutes may do this if the man pays more), then she could have recently contracted gonorrehea, chlamydia, etc in her mouth as well. If she gives you unprotected oral sex, you will get this on your genitals. Did you know that it is possible to contract herpes even IF you always use condoms and the sex partner is not currently experiencing an outbreak?? Say that she did give you HPV, this could make you at risk for cervical cancer in the future! Assuming that you do not care if you get herpes on your genitals or are willing to risk it, then perhaps you could get the HPV immunity shot before you do this for your own protection? If you decide instead that you want to do this with a woman that is not a prostitute, make sure that it is someone that will not try to steal your husband and is not a good friend. My sister engaged in a threesome with her ex husband while they married with a close friend of hers. Her husband continued an affair with this woman, and he ended up divorcing my sister for this woman. True story. Be safe. Good luck.
lastdandi lastdandi 5 years
P.S I need to check spell check!!!
lastdandi lastdandi 5 years
Okay so last night I had a dream that we got there and everything we planned went wrong. He picked the wrong girl. He dressed up in a shiny purple pimp outfit. He was rude and embarrassing. Everything he would never really do. I was so angry. Today I have a slightly different perspective because of the dream and your post. I do worrie about the balence of romance and lust. Our new "date" won't be for at least one year. Although I still believe that if anyone can do this it will be us. My belief is if it doesn't work out its not meant to be. I forgot to mention the main reason for the working girl is because we don't want to bring this home and have some fatal attraction. Also I don't want to be mean but @DebbieReed I get its taboo but to lock me up, really! My husband said your husband is a liar, check the shower wall!
HollyJRockNRoll HollyJRockNRoll 5 years
To quote Dr. Drew, "Threesomes rarely work." I agree. You may think you will be okay watching some other lady going down on your husband, but I highly doubt it.
SAVANNAHDAWG SAVANNAHDAWG 5 years
look, guy's perspective here. the thought of a threesome is way hot. "our #1 fantasy" as it is well known. However, I strongly suggest you avoid this. you are entering an arena strife with jealousy. seriously, if you love each other - stay away from involving others in your intimacy. i love fantasy role playing in the house but it only stays there.
lastdandi lastdandi 5 years
We are real and normal. We eat a home cooked dinner every night, we have a nice night out on the weekend. We don't party and are not crazy. The only time we really argue is about the way each other drives. Oh and when his Mom visits for three weeks at a time! Like I said I am older and have had a bit more experience, he is painfully shy so his is a bit limited. I use to be jealous and insecure when I thought he saw an attractive woman never did I think we would enjoy porn together. And yet it turned me on so how could I be mad at him. We enjoy these things together we are eerily on the same page. We have never been to a strip club so I think we will start there. As for picking a person who works at the bunny ranch they let you know if they cater to women, and if they are faking it good that is what we are paying for. We want a professional we will be nervous. We are trying to think of every scenario good and bad and we are discussing them at length we might even get there and back out. We have many fantasies we know that will never come to fruition because they cross our line. After looking online for weeks for any info on this I posted this for some feed back not for attention. Thank you.
sagagirl sagagirl 5 years
If this is for real don't do it. If you have to come on here for reassurance, you are not ready for that type of action.
sagagirl sagagirl 5 years
If this is for real, don't do it. If you have to come on her for reassurance, you are not ready for this type of action.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 5 years
@Studio 16 - you're right. I believe the last one was "I Want to Hook Up With a Girl"
bryseana bryseana 5 years
I don't see any harm in it since you're all consenting adults. I just don't understand why women get a pass on this. What if your husband wanted another man doing things to him? Would that be cool with you? It seems like a double standard that everyone accepts.
Natalie-Love Natalie-Love 5 years
My only concern is, how do you know the escort is bi or even bi curious? She might be totally straight, and will pretend to be into what you're doing to her, like ina fake porn movie. What fun is giving pleasure if all you're getting are fake moans? It seems like it could go really wrong going this way...
Carri Carri 5 years
Bringing a third person into a relationship is a bad idea, IMO. Talk about opening up a can of worms!
Studio16 Studio16 5 years
tlsgirl: Not only that, but I feel like this is the thousandth "I want/had a threesome" post in the past couple months. To the OP: Look, your marriage, your decision, but are you sure it's not best left as a fantasy? What sounds sexy in the mind could be all wrong in the sheets.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 5 years
Nothing to do with the post really, but have there been a TON of group therapy posts lately? Anyway, um, go for it. I don't think you're crazy, and it seems like the easiest, least complicated way to go for it.
jessr1214 jessr1214 5 years
This is something that my boyfriend and I are thinking of doing too so you are definitely not alone. I think its great that you can talk to your husband about your fantasies and as long as you have talked over the various possible negative repercussions I say go for it! I can see the allure of going to a brothel or something rather than finding a willing mutual friend because you won't run into the person again. When I was looking into this (its probably not going to happen for a few years for us) some of the women that I found actually encourage you to email them ahead of time, that way you can go into it confident that she knows what you want out of the experience as well. I remember on a similar post in the past someone suggested going to a strip club with your hubby to 'test the waters' in a somewhat less sexual way. You get to see how you both feel with him watching you getting close to another girl and vice versa. This might be a good thing to do in the time leading up to your trip. If either of you end up feeling jealous or insecure, you might want to keep the fantasy just that instead of making it a reality.
GregS GregS 5 years
This is rife with dangers for the 2 of you, but in the pantheon of possible ways to have this particular experience, this is probably the best. But what happens when you get home and you decide you want to do it again, only maybe make it more frequent with another woman? You're leaving him out of the equasion and it could become unbalanced. You learn in algebra that unbalanced equasions are wrong. They're wrong in relationships, too. Just be careful and stay attuned to your husband's feelings and emotions.
Venus1 Venus1 5 years
Assuming that this post is legit, I'm sorry but I do not think this is a good idea, and that is not because I am moralising. Speaking from experience, same sex liaisons can be beautiful soft and loving but there are so many other issues here. I have however, never been in a threesome situation. Firstly, your first time with another woman will be quite something in itself, I think a 1:1 situation would be much better assuming that would not cause difficulties within the relationship. Secondly this should be for your own pleasure and not the entertainment of anyone else. Have you ever been watched before; there are a lot of firsts to contend with here. Finally it might take longer to arrange but a willing friend or someone new who you meet may provide something far more sincere than a brothel. Good luck and take things steady.
Helen-Danger Helen-Danger 5 years
It's your sex life. You can make it into anything you want. I'm happy for you that you have such a great relationship. One thing you might want to watch out for...is that fantasies lose some of their power once you try to act them out. Make sure to always keep a few in reserve. Be safe and have fun!
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