While the debate still remains on whether or not people can truly change who they are, I stand firm by the fact that small changes are possible with commitment and determination. You really can become a more active person, start liking yourself more, or become more outgoing — it just takes time and a lot of practice! To check out some tips on making an everyday change,
- As with anything overwhelming, it’s best not to look at it in its entirety. Rather, take things one day at a time. Instead of telling yourself that as of today, you will no longer be critical of yourself, (which you're bound to fail at) just focus on being less critical for today.
- Take a minute every morning to remind yourself of what your goal is. You can do it while you’re in the shower, brushing your teeth, or just as you're waking up. It's a good idea to always keep it in mind!
- Similarly, at the end of the day, take a moment to make a note of your progress — in fact, writing it in a journal or on a calendar can be a big help. Use it as motivation to keep going and to consider what more you can do.
- You’re going to fall back into old habits — it’s only natural — but when you do, don’t beat yourself up over it. Even the smallest changes are very difficult to make, so instead of using it as an excuse to stop trying, use that energy to try harder the next day. This is a great time to whip out your journal to keep in mind how much you’ve already accomplished.
Dear's Advice: No matter what, don’t give up. Things will get easier with time and practice!