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The How-To Lounge: Writing Wedding Thank-You Notes

Once the wedding is over and you're home from your honeymoon, it's time to get back to normal life and take care of long list of to dos. Hopefully you took note of who gave you what gift because now's the time to write your thank-you notes.

Time is of the essence so to see my dos and don'ts on how to make this process fast and painless,


  • If you didn't order thank-you cards to match your other wedding papery, stick to something that has a similar look. These cards should be on the more formal side.
  • It's best to get your thank-you cards in the mail ASAP, preferably two to three weeks after receiving your gift, and six to eight weeks at the very most.
  • Be sure to hand write your thank-you notes — email does not suffice!
  • Make your thank-you notes personal. Mention the gift you received and be sure to note any special efforts made by that guest, if they traveled a long distance, made a speech, etc.
  • Even if someone didn't attend your wedding but sent a gift, be sure to send them a thank-you note. And remember, wedding thank-you notes should be separate from shower or engagement thank-you notes.
  • Although some think it's the wife's job to write all the thank-you notes, the husband should do his part as well. Always say "we" instead of "I" and be sure to have both signatures on every note.
  • Getting all your thank-you notes written can seem incredibly daunting, but if you set aside a few hours a night, throw on some music and open a bottle of wine — it shouldn't be too painful. Do whatever you can to try to make it as fun as possible!
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