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How Can I Forgive? Here's How

How Can I Forgive? Here's How

Learning how to forgive is not easy for lots of people, and most of the time it won't happen overnight, but holding a grudge can oftentimes cause more pain than the original incident. Before you can forgive someone else for their wrong doings, you have to take the appropriate steps to be ready, so hopefully these tips can guide you there.

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  • Forgiveness isn't for everyone so don't feel pressure to forgive unless you are ready to do so
  • It is important to face your emotional pain or anger head on, regardless of what you choose to do with your emotions. Pushing it to the side will only make matters worse later down the road
  • If you need to forgive someone, you have obviously been wronged somehow, but it is important to own up to your part in the equation as well
  • Forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean forgetting the incident at hand or that you are condoning bad or abusive behavior. While it is important to stand your ground, if you choose to forgive, it is equally as important to be able to leave the past in the past
  • Forgiving someone is often very difficult, but empowering just the same. Having the courage to forgive can instantly lessen your hurt and pain and give you a sense of liberation
  • Forgiving can give you a new approach to your relationship and how you view that person or incident. Try to understand the other person's perspective and point of view even if you don't agree
  • Holding a grudge and carrying around unnecessary baggage has been proven to cause health problems in women so ridding yourself of deadly emotions is not only good for the spirit, but for the body and soul as well

While some people like to get even, the best revenge is living a happy healthy life, so use the power of forgiveness as your tool!


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andaman andaman 9 years
It was really hard though cause I was so angry but in the end you have to let it goes. If you hold onto it you will become bitter and that's your lost not their. Like dear has said it can be empowering cause in the end you feel better about yourself.
andaman andaman 9 years
Yes you can and I have done it
PrissyLilBadAss PrissyLilBadAss 9 years
But can you forgive someone who isn't sorry for what they did?
summer-roberts summer-roberts 9 years
Yes, forgiving and getting over are 2 different things.
LaLaLaurie06 LaLaLaurie06 9 years
I agree andaman!!!!!
andaman andaman 9 years
I think it all depends how bad you've been hurt. I do believe forgiveness is a great thing but it is okay if you can't do it. You don't need to forgive all the time but you do need to move forward and start making yourself happier (which sometimes doesn't involve forgiving someone)
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