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"How Can I Make My Boyfriend Trust Me?"

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I need some relationship help. My boyfriend is overly insecure with me — he doesn't trust me at all and he's had these trust problems since the day we met. He's constantly questioning me when I go out (which I rarely do anymore) and he sends texts like "You're not going out today." It makes me feel bad and then he'll says things like, "I don't go out, so why would you?" He just assumes that I'm going to cheat on him.

I have no boys in my phone besides my dad and as soon as I got a new SIM card, I gave my number out to a few friends but now he won't let me contact them because he thinks they're "sluts" — just because they have friends who are boys. I don't know how to resolve this because I know it's going to end badly. Also, I wanted to go to college, but now I'm going to put that on hold because he can't trust me going there. He says I'll go to college parties and do stuff with boys.

I've never cheated on anyone. All my relationships have been long and I'm just not the type. There is one thing that he uses against me, though, and it's the fact that I got into another boy's car at the beginning of our relationship. It was just a close friend and I was very popular before I met my boyfriend, and going in friends' cars was the norm. The friend was taking me to my boyfriend because he wouldn't pick me up.

He also has my Facebook password in case I talk to any boys, and if boys message me or comment on my photos, he says it's my fault and that I'm an attention seeker. I don't know what to do because I try so hard to make him trust me. I've never cheated and never would. He's controlling my life, but at the same time, I enjoy his company and don't mind not speaking to other people — I'd just like to have the option.

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