Editor's note: The following is a guest post written by Jodi Lipper and Cerina Vincent, authors of How to Eat Like a Hot Chick, How to Love Like a Hot Chick, and the just-released Live Like a Hot Chick.As frustrating and heartbreaking as they can be, mother/daughter dilemmas are completely normal and a part of almost every mother/daughter duo. If one of these common problems is threatening your relationship with mom, try our fast fixes below so that you can get some all-important motherly love!
Daughter Dilemma #1: Your Mom Keeps Asking When You're Going to Give Her Grandchildren
How to Deal With It: Remember that your mama just misses cuddling with her darling baby girl (i.e. YOU!) and wants to re-live that experience with your own sweet baby. Be honest with your mom about your thoughts and plans regarding children so that at least she'll have realistic expectations, whether she likes your time-line or not.
Daughter Dilemma #2: Your Mom Makes Snarky Comments About Your Weight
How to Deal With It: She probably just wants what’s best for you, and doesn’t realize that these nasty comments are anything but that! Try saying something like, “Mom, do you know that weight and body image issues are a problem for most women/girls my age? Calling attention to it just makes me feel bad about myself.” If she knows the damage her words cause, hopefully she will stop.
Daughter Dilemma #3: Your Mom Hates Your Boyfriend
How to Deal With it: First, make sure you are in a healthy relationship! If so, explain to your mom exactly what you love about this guy – how sweet he is, how well he treats you, etc. Even if she’s reluctant, encourage your mom to spend more time with your boyfriend so she can see how great he is for herself. Again, we’re pretty sure your mom only wants you to be happy, and once she knows you are, we really hope she’ll accept your man with open arms.
See the last two dilemmas after the jump!
Daughter Dilemma #4: Your Mom Is Cold and You Long For More Nurturing
How to Deal With It: Act extra warm and loving to HER, and remember that if she doesn’t reciprocate, it’s not because she doesn’t love you. She probably lacked a nurturing mother herself, and doesn’t know how to act any differently. Try to have sympathy instead of resentment; it will be even harder for mom to love you if you’re a hater.
Daughter Dilemma #5: Your Mom Doesn’t Approve of Your Life Choices
How to Deal With It: Whether it’s getting a tattoo, moving in with a boyfriend before getting engaged, or coming out of the closet, it can be very painful when your mother doesn’t approve of a major part of your life. Just remember that you can’t please everyone all the time; all you can do is be true to yourself and honest with the people you love. Sit her down and say, “Mom, I know you disapprove of X, but I want you to know that I’m still the same person underneath and I’d really appreciate your support.” It may take a while, but hopefully mom will realize that having her daughter in her life is worth accepting your differences.