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How Do I Move On From My Ex Boyfriend?

"How Can I Move On When He Still Contacts Me?"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

Every time I post my issues here I get really good advice, so here it goes.

I had been dating this guy since 2005 when we broke up last May — for the fourth time. We broke up because he was treating me like I wasn't one of his priorities, along with the fact that he had stopped putting effort into our relationship; he would disappear for days, he wouldn't tell me when he was going out with friends, and he stood me up several times. I decided to confront him and he said he needed time. That was the second time he asked me for that, so I decided it was better to break up. He texted me a couple of times after that and I decided to tell him that I didn't want to be friends, that I was mad and sad for everything that had happened, and that I wanted my time alone.

One month had passed and we still hadn't talked. I felt good, sometimes a little sad, but overall I thought I was moving on, until he contacted me again. Last week, he sent me an email telling me that he was moving. We lived in the same neighborhood so the fact that he was going to move really hit me hard. I cried; I hadn't cried during this whole time, not even the day we broke up and I felt really bad. I responded saying how I was going to miss living in the same neighborhood as him and that we were probably never going to see each other again; he then told me that he still wanted to see me.

Anyways, we ended up emailing each other for a few days, and the last email said that he was finally gone. In one of the previous emails he even asked me if I had watched the new Spider-Man movie yet and I thought he was going to invite me. I replied "no, I haven't but I want to" and he responded "Yeah, I heard it's good." The fact that he didn't invite me hurt and everything has been really hard since. I thought I had moved on, but it turns out that I haven't. I check my email every ten minutes and get very anxious.

Some of my friends tell me that it's a great thing that he moved and how it's going to help me move on since I won't be bumping into him as often. They also say that I should ignore his next email or just write him back telling him that he shouldn't contact me anymore; sometimes I want to tell him that, but the thought of losing him is just horrible. Don't get me wrong I know I have to move on, but I just don't know how to. I don't know how to ignore him or tell him to stop contacting him. I guess I have to find out why he keeps contacting me, being nice to me, and telling me that he wants to see me? Does he still want to be with me?

So, please help. Do you have any methods to move on? Or do you have any insight into what he wants from me?

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