I have a "friend," who I know due to her being engaged to one of my oldest, dearest friends. She drives me crazy — makes me anxious, and stresses me out. She is extremely self-centered, and expects a lot out of our "friendship," yet does not reciprocate the efforts that I put in.
A few years ago she asked me to be in her wedding party (before she was engaged . . . two years later she finally paid for half of her own ring and is now engaged), and I said sure, because . . . well how do you say no, right? Well, I got engaged at the beginning of 2010, and my fiance and I planned right from the start to not have our wedding until June 2012. A week after we became engaged she asked if she was in my bridal party. I said, " . . . . yessss." ACK! I know. I just couldn't say no.
Now I don't know how to fix this. This girl drives me insane, I don't want her to be part of our special day. I want it to be about us, and our very closest friends. How do I tell her I don't want her as a bridesmaid? Can I even do that? It's a toss-up — suck it up because I said yes, and forever regret it, or potentially cause a huge falling out and drama in our circle of friends?
I realize how juvenile this sounds, I really do. And I know if I had any backbone I would have just said no in the first place, but I suffer from anxiety and disappointing people can lead to near panic attacks for me.
Source: Flickr User kiddharma