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How Do You Feel About Using the Word "Fiance"?

The Word "Fiancé": Love It or Leave It?

A friend of mine recently got engaged but shudders at using the word "fiancé" to refer to her affianced. It feels more natural to say "boyfriend" when talking about her husband-to-be. I propose that she go with something intentionally hokey, like "my intended." How do you feel about using the word fiancé?

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LittlePinkStar LittlePinkStar 6 years
it's weird to call him "fiance" although our relationship has moved up a level...i usually address him by his name or i'll say hubby, although i admit i do still say boyfriend....plus were waiting 2 years till the wedding to it seems like ill be saying fiance for wait too long!
danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
I love the word and have been waiting 4 1/2 years to be able to use it and damnit, I will use it! :p Boyfriend seems so high school to me.
Bella14Stella Bella14Stella 6 years
I call my fiance "my fiance" - he's not my boyfriend, he's the guy I'm getting married to.
PrincessLtrain PrincessLtrain 6 years
I like the word, but I find that I never use it! It's not because it annoys me, it just never feels natural. Of course boyfriend rolls off the tongue easier because it's a term I've been using for 14 years. But I find to continue calling him my "boyfriend" now that were engaged would be rather insulting. He put the time and effort into a beautiful proposal, designed a gorgeous ring, and yet he still gets the same title as 6+ previous guys in my life? He deserves a title upgrade! It doesn't mean he's better than anyone else.
PrincessLtrain PrincessLtrain 6 years
I like the word, but I find that I never use it! It's not because it annoys me, it just never feels natural. Of course boyfriend rolls off the tongue easier because it's a term I've been using for 14 years. But I find to continue calling him my "boyfriend" now that were engaged would be rather insulting. He put the time and effort into a beautiful proposal, designed a gorgeous ring, and yet he still gets the same title as 6+ previous guys in my life? He deserves a title upgrade! It doesn't mean he's better than anyone else.
heatherhas heatherhas 6 years
I mostly just refer to him by his first name, unless I need to introduce him as my fiance. It is an awkward word for me, but he was offended when I still called him by boyfriend.She will get over it and use it or find an appropriate way to get around it. "My intended" sounds even more pretentious to me. It is not as commonly used as fiance.
heatherhas heatherhas 6 years
I mostly just refer to him by his first name, unless I need to introduce him as my fiance. It is an awkward word for me, but he was offended when I still called him by boyfriend. She will get over it and use it or find an appropriate way to get around it. "My intended" sounds even more pretentious to me. It is not as commonly used as fiance.
Brandi13jrm Brandi13jrm 6 years
I hate the word fiance, it sounds soooo pretentious... as if now you're a more important person since you have decided to get married. Reality check, you're not. Marriage is great, I've been married nine years, but I hate how people get engaged then unengaged and then engaged again... it's like they don't take it seriously. I think most people like the "idea" of marriage and get wrapped up in the term fiance and the engagement parties, bridal showers, bacherlorette parties, planning the wedding, etc. It's all ridiculous to me. (Sorry, I went on a rant there, huh? ; ))
Brandi13jrm Brandi13jrm 6 years
I hate the word fiance, it sounds soooo pretentious... as if now you're a more important person since you have decided to get married. Reality check, you're not. Marriage is great, I've been married nine years, but I hate how people get engaged then unengaged and then engaged again... it's like they don't take it seriously. I think most people like the "idea" of marriage and get wrapped up in the term fiance and the engagement parties, bridal showers, bacherlorette parties, planning the wedding, etc. It's all ridiculous to me. (Sorry, I went on a rant there, huh? ; ))
cotedazur cotedazur 6 years
Here in France, anytime a couple is serious or has been together a long time, they're called "fiancés" - even if she doesn't have a ring and they haven't specifically discussed marriage. But in the US I understand how it's more awkward to use. Why not just elope and go straight from boyfriend to husband? ;)
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
Love the word. It's accurate, and it's an upgrade from boyfriend.I also love the word "husband," too. :)
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
Love the word. It's accurate, and it's an upgrade from boyfriend. I also love the word "husband," too. :)
clareberrys clareberrys 6 years
There should be an "in between" button. I cant wait to call my boyfriend my fiance! But at the same time I would get annoyed [with myself] if I was saying it over and over again. Typically if I am referring to him in a conversation with someone who doesnt know him or doesnt know me that well I would say "fiance" but otherwise, like when talking with friends or coworkers I would just say his name.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 6 years
I have no prob with the word.
sham28 sham28 6 years
Just introduce him by name and people will notice the ring. Ta-dah! Though I like fiance. Just not over and over and over again, as with any word.
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 6 years
I have no problem with the word fiance. When I was engaged to my husband I called him my fiance, and he did the same. It's every couple's personal choice.
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 6 years
When I got engaged, I slipped up and still called him my boyfriend. Once I finally got used to saying fiance, I up and got married and then would slip up and say my fiance instead of husband. I finally got it down!I do think it's funny when people say "my fiance", mimicking the seinfeld episode.
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 6 years
When I got engaged, I slipped up and still called him my boyfriend. Once I finally got used to saying fiance, I up and got married and then would slip up and say my fiance instead of husband. I finally got it down! I do think it's funny when people say "my fiance", mimicking the seinfeld episode.
Beauty Beauty 6 years
I don't like fiancé. Just sounds goofy and so '80s. It's better than LOVAH, though.
efsarbaby efsarbaby 6 years
it's a better word than "husband."
leslievanhouten leslievanhouten 6 years
fiance is an ugly, antiquated sounding word. I always think of the movie Raising Arizona, when Holly Hunter cries "my finance left me"
leslievanhouten leslievanhouten 6 years
fiance is an ugly, antiquated sounding word. I always think of the movie Raising Arizona, when Holly Hunter cries "my finance left me"
kia kia 6 years
when I was engaged I still called my guy my boyfriend and he teased me about it. I simply would forget despite having a ring on my finger. now that we are married I don't have to be concerned with slipping up over that transitional word. the word is fine with me, just a label, a loving label.
Briandiesel Briandiesel 6 years
yah, my best friend was calling hers boyfriend still and i was like, he bought you a diamond, he upgrades to fiance. She switched to husband, which i think is cute.
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