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How Do You Know When You're Settling?

Group Therapy: How Do You Know When You Are Settling?

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

I feel as if I am settling with my boyfriend. He is in the army reserves and works with a marketing company that requires him to showcase products around the United States. I would say about 85 percent of his job requires him to travel. The army reserves keep him busy once a weekend and sometimes they require him to stay on base for longer periods of time.

Don't get me wrong, it's not like he ignores me. He communicates with me on a daily basis whether it's text messages, phone calls, e-mails or web cam. I also see him at least once or twice a week and sometimes more when he is local with his job. I sometimes go to visit him down at base for the weekend but it's very limited since they have certain regulations about visitors.

We have been together for three years and this is how it's always been. Last year he was working on a marketing project that successfully went overseas and he asked if it I wanted to stay together. He offered to skype and e-mail and even call when he got a chance but for me I couldn't do it. So we broke up.

I then started going out with another man who had more time to invest in me and I started to fall in love. He wanted to get married and have kids and in no way was I ready for that; not like I am now.

We broke up and five months later my ex returned and said that he opted out of doing any international work because he missed me so badly and wanted to be back together. We are now together and things are the same as they have always been. I know some women would say that I'm asking for too much but now that I have experienced what it is to have had someone physically there for dates and quality time. I must say I favor that instead of the one to two nights a week of just watching tv or playing scrabble.

Am I asking for too much people? Am I settling or am I not settling? I'm beginning to lose interest in my boyfriend and am starting to wonder what else is out there.

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