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"How Do You Know Who Is Mr. Right?"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

I've heard it all before about being smart and wise to choose well when it comes to settling for the "right guy." But who is the right man?? OK, I guess it is someone you trust and can talk to about just anything, someone you can be yourself with. I understand those are the right parameters, but what happens when you find all that but no chemistry? How much is chemistry important? It's a little disappointing when you meet someone who seems like a "good catch" and has all the values you look for, but there is just that little something missing to fit the picture of someone you want to settle with. If you turn away and leave, chances are you might wait and wait till a good and nice guy appears again.

Bottom line is, it's damn hard to find charm, wit, chemistry, values, and common interests all in one place. It's disappointing. Somehow, you picture marrying someone you will laugh with, someone you will have awesome chemistry with (and he doesn't have to be super good-looking, BTW — just fit for you) and someone honest and decent toward you. Then you always find that it's impossible to find all that, and it's only reasonable to want it. You find out that they are either fun but unable to commit, or they are serious, responsible but boring, and you are left feeling empty and unfulfilled. 

I would like to see what other ladies out there have to say about the issue — preferably mature ladies or those who are married (happily and unhappily): is there anything they regret abut their choices and why . . . Is it true that when the time comes to commit to the right guy, you just know, or is more like a carefully chosen, wise choice? How wise is it to wait and pass opportunities just because that little something is missing (such as good chemistry)?

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