- Plan ahead. When it comes to feeling good about yourself, preparation is a major factor. The night before your date, be sure that you sleep well, exercise, or paint your nails — whatever it is that puts a little pep in your step.
- Dress comfortably. Feeling like yourself is crucial, so wear clothes that are both cute and comfortable. If you feel strange in your own skin, it shows, and when you're fidgeting with a too-tight blouse, he may misinterpret the signs and assume you're feeling awkward because of him.
- Be on time. Running late is sure to make you agitated, which can throw off your attitude and make you feel self-conscious. Avoid any frazzled, frantic energy by sticking to your schedule and arriving on time.
- Sit up and smile. What's true for job interviews is true for dates: If you carry yourself well, you'll both feel better and look better. Good posture can trigger the same mood boost that happens when you switch from flats to heels, so sit up straight to look poised and self-assured.
Read on for more confidence-boosting tips.
- Limit the drinks. You may assume that those glasses of wine will inspire extra confidence, but getting tipsy can mean letting your guard down — and letting those insecurities shine through. Stick to one or two drinks to stay composed and keep yourself in check.
- Slow down. Relax. If you can force yourself to speak more slowly and even move at a more leisurely pace, those relaxed actions will help you to stay calm. Even better? By steering clear of high-speed, wound up speech, you'll come across as laid-back and levelheaded.
- Ask questions. It's easy to get awkward on a date if you feel like you're stuck in the spotlight, so turn the tables every once in a while and ask him questions. By showing interest in his work or hobbies, you'll divert attention for a little while and help him feel more engaged in the conversation.
- Choose topics wisely. Everyone sounds and feels better when they know what they're talking about, so do yourself a favor and steer the conversation toward subjects you love. Not a fan of golf? Redirect his Tiger rant to sports in general, then reminisce about your best days on the soccer field.