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How Has V-Day Changed as Your Relationship Progresses?

If you've just started dating someone new, you might hope your budding relationship blooms into a few red roses for Valentine's Day. But once you're together for years, romance can take on a different purpose. Jennifer Garner, who will likely be weighing in on love for a while thanks to her new movie appropriately named Valentine's Day, recently discussed how the holiday has changed for her and husband Ben Affleck. She said:

"It's a day where you're forced to . . . talk about the fact that you love each other and why you got to get married in the first place — restart things."

It sounds like Jennifer and Ben take Valentine's Day a little more seriously now they're married, but I can see a long-term relationship having the opposite effect too. How has Valentine's Day changed for you as your relationship moves well past start?

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bubblyw bubblyw 6 years
ha ha, what is with the awful picture of her?? I think it's cute, I'm just wondering why?I like valentine's day because it's a holiday that's free from our family's traditions or our own traditions (like Christmas and birthdays and all that), and make our own traditions together. We go out for bbq and then drink wine and watch bad movie. It's the one holiday where I don't need to worry about things being compared to the way his fam did them growing up! We both really enjoy it as a day to slow down and enjoy each other.
bubblyw bubblyw 6 years
ha ha, what is with the awful picture of her?? I think it's cute, I'm just wondering why? I like valentine's day because it's a holiday that's free from our family's traditions or our own traditions (like Christmas and birthdays and all that), and make our own traditions together. We go out for bbq and then drink wine and watch bad movie. It's the one holiday where I don't need to worry about things being compared to the way his fam did them growing up! We both really enjoy it as a day to slow down and enjoy each other.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 6 years
It hasn't. We never celebrated it.
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 6 years
My husband and I, even back when we were dating, never really made a huge deal of V-day. We go out to a nice dinner, exchange (small) gifts if we feel like it, and just generally have a good time. Nothing too trumped up or fancy.
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 6 years
My husband and I always pick out nice stock paper and write down how we're feeling about each other. I get fresh flowers from him often so I don't get those as a V-day gift. last year, we purchased these books where it asked a question and you wrote in something about your partner (such as favorite body parts, favorite quirks, moments where you were scared/concerned for your partner, difficult time that your spouse helped you through). It's reallly great.
Deidre Deidre 6 years
Every VDay that hubs and I have spent together has been low key, but very fun and very us. We have a tradition of cooking a gourmet meal together each year. This year, we're recreating our honeymoon by making some Costa Rican dishes. No gifts or cards -- just a great meal, lots of time together, and plenty of candlelight.
skigurl skigurl 6 years
my bf and i obviously spend the day and night together but we try to do something FUN...not like a fancy stuffy dinner at a packed restaurant or anything but something like a concert and possibly drinking margaritas til we're tipsyhe will ge me flowers and i'll get him a present with a card telling him how much i love him ;) nothing more than like $50 probably on my end...and that's thatto be honest, we talk about how much we love each other and how great our relationship is all the time so there's no need to be forced to do it on valentine's day
skigurl skigurl 6 years
my bf and i obviously spend the day and night together but we try to do something FUN...not like a fancy stuffy dinner at a packed restaurant or anything but something like a concert and possibly drinking margaritas til we're tipsy he will ge me flowers and i'll get him a present with a card telling him how much i love him ;) nothing more than like $50 probably on my end...and that's that to be honest, we talk about how much we love each other and how great our relationship is all the time so there's no need to be forced to do it on valentine's day
kurniakasih kurniakasih 6 years
I find it also interesting that she used the word "forced."I just don't celebrate it, and yeah, I don't really think much about receiving or giving gift. Let's just say that all these years with hub from dating until marriage and kid...I've not bought him anything (not even a card) for V-day. Sure, I'd say, hey, Happy V-day. And that's about it.He's gotten me cards year after year and sometimes, when he's motivated, bought me some stuffs/gifts (that I'd rather not have. Seriously). But he's got good intention and is being sweet.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 6 years
I find it also interesting that she used the word "forced." I just don't celebrate it, and yeah, I don't really think much about receiving or giving gift. Let's just say that all these years with hub from dating until marriage and kid...I've not bought him anything (not even a card) for V-day. Sure, I'd say, hey, Happy V-day. And that's about it. He's gotten me cards year after year and sometimes, when he's motivated, bought me some stuffs/gifts (that I'd rather not have. Seriously). But he's got good intention and is being sweet.
janneth janneth 6 years
Always have loved Valday. I have to admit that I expect to receive, and rarely give a gift.
janneth janneth 6 years
Always have loved Valday. I have to admit that I expect to receive, and rarely give a gift.
bryseana bryseana 6 years
I've never celebrated Valentine's Day.
bransugar79 bransugar79 6 years
Never really been into Valentine's Day just because I don't want to feel "forced" into telling my husband I love him. We do special things for each other all the time and say I love you at least a billion times a day. He's my best friend and my soul mate so it's silly to think that one day with him is somehow more awesome than the rest just because it has a name
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
It's just date night with really hot steamy sex, lol. Definitely a day for the romantics my only objection is not the the idea but the cheesiness which has been heaped onto Valentines Day by marketers.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
It's just date night with really hot steamy sex, lol. Definitely a day for the romantics my only objection is not the the idea but the cheesiness which has been heaped onto Valentines Day by marketers.
Pistil Pistil 6 years
I've never made a fuss over V-day, so it hasn't changed much.I like how she uses the word "forced".
Pistil Pistil 6 years
I've never made a fuss over V-day, so it hasn't changed much. I like how she uses the word "forced".
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
As for us, Valentine's Day is a low-key yet sentimental day. We've been together for a long time, and I still ask him,"Will you be my Valentine?" To which he tenderly answers, "Yes." We're sappy like that. :)
Camarogirl67 Camarogirl67 6 years
Yeah it's changed after 12 years. As in - oh, VDay's coming up. Crazy. But I DO still sometimes get flowers for no reason. So.
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