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How Long Does It Take to Get Over a First Love?

Group Therapy: How Long Does It Take to Get Over a First Love?

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My first love broke up with me several weeks ago and I'm heartbroken. I am 21 and we dated for 4 years (lived together for 2). I don't even know the exact reason we broke up; he said a lot of conflicting things, but basically said he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. Maybe this was just another way of saying he wants the freedom to hook up with other girls, but he truly didn't seem like that kind of guy. I know it will be different for everyone, but how long did it take you to get over your first love?

I still love him a lot and want to be with him, but I know that I am going to just disappoint myself if I spend months waiting for him to change his mind (which may never happen). I'm trying to keep myself busy and move on, but thinking of him being with someone else devastates me. Still, there are moments when I think that I'm going to be fine and will find someone better for me. It's just been a roller coaster of emotions lately! I'm sure I'll look back on this when I'm older and feel stupid for thinking that we were going to be together forever and everything, but it's really hard to think logically right now! Any advice on how long it took you or how you got over your first love would be greatly appreciated.

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