Talking with your loved one about these risk factors can bolster your infidelity immunities. YourTango has the nine questions to ask to prevent cheating.
Even the briefest infidelity can inflict major damage to you, your loved one, and also your relationship. Healing is often possible, especially with the help of couples therapy, but prevention is far preferable. Yet many couples are reluctant to talk about infidelity for fear that even mentioning the term might invite this dreaded phenomenon into your world. In fact, however, talking together about the following nine infidelity risk factors can significantly bolster your immunity.
1. What is the most frequent infidelity factor that results in good folks cheating on their partner?
Most infidelities are products of naïveté. You interact with a person of the opposite sex, you are unaware of what to do to protect yourself from an inadvertent affair, and unintentionally you slide into too involved a connection. When sexualized feelings begin emerging, you think “I can handle this.” The feelings become increasingly intense, weakening your ability for willpower or good judgment to hold sway.
2. What situational factor frequently plays a key role in infidelity?
Situations in which a man and a woman spend time together in a private space invite infidelity troubles. Privacy allows for secret time and interactions. Suddenly, boom, sexual feelings flower into sexual action. You were talking alone together and did not foresee that you were heading down a road that would lead to a sexual encounter. You then underestimate the addictive potency of new romance, and bad leads to worse . . .
3. How does what you talk about with someone of the opposite sex impact infidelity risks?
It can feel flattering when someone of the opposite sex wants to talk with you about his or her personal problems. Beware. Talking about intimate subjects leads to impulses for sexual intimacy. Suddenly sexual actions don’t feel like infidelity. They just feel like a logical and appropriate next step in an already too-emotionally-intimate relationship.
For six more questions to ask, head to YourTango: Infidelity: 9 Must-Knows to Prevent Cheating In Your Relationship
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