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"How Do I Save This Relationship?"

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My boyfriend and I have been together for five years, and we've been doing long distance for about five months. On Saturday, I'm moving back to where he lives. It hasn't been easy over the last few months and I've been unhappy, which makes him unhappy. I called to tell him my plans and he texted me back to say that we need to talk. When he called, I told him I was moving on Saturday and had my interview all lined up, and he said that he met someone. I lost it. He said that nothing happened, that he just had a conversation with her at the bar. I saw that he'd added her on Facebook, but I've never been the jealous type until this. We've been broken up for five days now without any contact, but I'm still moving back. I made my relationship status invisible on Facebook and it took him two days to do the same. When I saw that, it hurt a lot, so I deactivated my Facebook account. I couldn't sleep, though, so of course I checked it late at night and realized he'd done the same, so I deactivated again.

It seems like he's paying attention to what I'm doing and not too concerned about showing off that he's single. We've been best friends for a long time and we lived together, but we're relatively young — I'm 24, he's 26 — and I've taken a little longer than most to get my life figured out. Leaving for school made me realize that I want a life with him and a career, so now that I've figured it all out, he goes and does this. I'm going to see him and talk to him when I get there, per his request. I'm really hurt, but I'm also sure that he's my soul mate and he's said that lately "he's been confused." I want things to work out, but I think he's feeling pressure from society to get married and it's freaking him out. I want to give him time to figure it out, and he's also said that he thinks we'll be together in the end, that he loves me, and that he wants to help me however he can. Yes, I know, he's letting me down easy, but after five years, I think it's a little more than that. He wanted to marry me four months ago, so I'm pretty sure there's something worth saving here. How do I approach this conversation?

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