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How Soon Is Too Soon to Text a Guy After Meeting Him?

"How Soon Is Too Soon to Text a Guy After Meeting Him?"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

Guys like the one I met this weekend don't come around too often — I'm shy, so the odds of striking up a romance with a guy are slim to none. That, plus all my dating endeavors in college have been moot. So I met a guy on Saturday and we got to talking, and all of a sudden I realized that we'd been talking for hours on end — online, not in person. We talked into the wee hours of the morning about everything. It was so fulfilling and exciting to talk to him because he was intelligent and brought a lot to the conversation. After our lengthy chat, we exchanged numbers. He seemed very excited about it and so was I. During the conversation, he kept saying how awesome it was to talk to me, and how foolish he'd be if he didn't ask me to hang out later. In other words, God has finally sent me someone promising, but now I don't know what to do.

That was a few days ago and I'm getting really antsy about how and when I should contact him — or if he should be the one to do it. In the past, I've lost out on men because I tend to be a closed book. I played trivial courting games (like the He Has To Text You First game and Reply To His Texts Only After Hours Have Passed game), so I gave off the impression that I wasn't interested when I actually was. Still, I know that making yourself too available and striking up conversations all the time can read as desperate. How do I find the middle ground? I really like this guy and don't want to mess things up. I'm itching to talk to him again, but I fear I'll drive him away somehow.

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