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"How Do I Tell Him I Am a Virgin?"

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I am a late bloomer. After a few bad experiences in high school I lost all interest in boys along with any sense of self esteem and was relatively content being single. Recently I have got back into the dating game and have been giving the guys I meet a chance rather than dismissing them immediately like I used to. 

About a week ago I met a guy who made me laugh a great deal and I felt quite comfortable around him. It is clear that neither of us want anything serious other than someone to have fun with both sexually and emotionally as we got along very well. I really want to go meet up with him again and am keen for a casual fling. My major worry is how do I explain I am a virgin to him? I also don't want to put any pressure on him or anything and because I like him as a person I don't want it to make things awkward, in turn I don't want him to wonder what's wrong with me and why I am still a virgin. He is 22 and I am 19 so he is a lot more experienced than I am but judging from our conversation, even though he knows I am 19 he seems to think I am "cool and confident" and just as experienced as he is.

I feel I should stress I am a virgin by circumstance not due to any religious or personal beliefs. Until I met this guy I just genuinely didn't care for any of the guys I had met so I know I am ready, it's just a matter of dealing with the fact that for a lot of girls my age they lost their virginity a while a go.

Thanks in advance for your help!

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