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Group Therapy: "Feel Better" Tactics Have All Backfired

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I recently got dumped (one month ago) and after two solid weeks of crying I decided I was done and was going to try and make myself feel better. But then life dealt me another blow when my mom was admitted to the emergency room and she had to stay in hospital for a week (she's okay now, thank goodness) Needless to say, it's been a rough month.

Anyway, one night my friends and I were at a club with our group and when I got home later, one of my guy friends texted me asking if he could kiss me. I ignored his text because I was still raw from getting dumped (he never knew about the other guy, we are not super-close friends) and I still thought that my ex-boyfriend might call me asking me to take him back.

When I finally realized that my ex-boyfriend was never going to call me back, a week later I decided I needed some TLC and texted my guy friend that I was sorry I ignored his text, that I got shy that night and then I asked him if he wanted to hang out. He texted to say that he "didn't know what he was doing this weekend, but we could" and I texted "Okay, shoot me a text if you would like to hang out"  I never heard back from him and haven't seen him. Ugh. I just wanted a guy to hug me, that's all.

So then I decided to have my hair cut into a short, sassy bob to "start fresh." Unfortunately it turned out terribly because my hair is way too thick to carry off such a style and now I look like a mushroom! It looked good in the salon but it's looks weird now. I've tried everything to make it look better and I am so self-conscious of it. The only thing that will help is to just let it grow again but that will take about four months. It's really dented my self-esteem.

I've tried to stay positive but it gets really hard sometimes. I'm glad my mom's healthy but other than that I feel pretty shaken up. I go out with my friends sometimes, and I go for bike rides and eat well but I feel so blah and alone. My budget is pretty tight so I can't really do the "manicure/pedicure, fly to Cancun, learn to scuba-dive" thing. Are there any "feel better" tips you guys could give me? Maybe something that has worked for you?

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