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Husband Won't Go to the Doctor

Group Therapy: How Do I Get My Husband to Go to the Doctor?

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This shouldn't be something I have to crowdsource an answer for, but I need a sounding board for how to get my hubby to see a doctor. I know guys have some innate thing that makes them hate doctors and my guy is a perfect example of this. He's literally not been to a doctor for a single damn thing in over 5 years. Mind you, he's not in perfect health, he just chooses to avoid medical help. He's been smoking since he was 12 (18 years now) and has recently developed a really bad hacking cough that scares the crap out of me. I smoked for 9 years — the last several years I kept asking him to quit with me so I would have the moral support but gave up on waiting for him — and quit on my own last year. He has started thinking more positively of quitting after watching how easily I kicked it with just the patch and peanut butter M&M's, but I fear that he's already got serious concerns that we should monitor if not treat, above and beyond the simple need to get him to quit smoking eventually.

Anyhow, I'm rambling about this . . . the main question is: how can I convince him that he needs to take time out of his schedule and go see the doctor for a physical at the very least? I always get the excuses of "not enough time" or "too expensive" or whatever, and even if I get him to agree to schedule an appointment, he'll either never schedule it or he'll miss/cancel the appointment. It took me 6 freakin' years to get him to get new glasses, I don't want it to take another 10 years to get him to see a doc about potential emphysema, copd, bronchitis, the big C, etc. My grandfather died of lung cancer and emphysema — I don't want to even think about my hubby going through the same thing Grandad did . . .

thanks sugars!

— Biwife

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