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I Am Not Attracted to My Boyfriend

Sunday Confessional: I Am Not Attracted to My Boyfriend

This week's confession comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Weigh in with your advice below.

I've been best friends with a guy who is in love with me for over a year. He knows me better than anyone, loves me despite my odd antisocial nature, and tries to help me be a better me. The only thing missing for me is a physical attraction. He is overweight and not physically my type at all. Recently, he asked me to "take a huge risk" with him and try dating. Really nothing has changed in our relationship except that he does more things for me and buys me things.

We have still never kissed. I do not feel inclined to do that, or anything else physical with him. Aside from that, he is the perfect boyfriend. Sometimes it doesn't bother me that I am not attracted to him, but sometimes it does. How do I get past the lack of attraction, or can I? Is this worth moving on, despite the fact that I worry I'll never find someone who loves me as much and that I can be as honest and open with? Or do I just need to resign myself to the idea of having a relationship without chemistry?

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