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I've been seeing this guy for four months. Everything seems great — I'm head over heels and sure he's the one. I assumed he felt the same way. He kind of fudged the facts on at least one of his past relationships — he acted like they accidentally hooked up once, but they actually either hooked up or slept together several times or maybe even dated briefly. Anyway, one night I couldn't sleep and he'd left his blackberry laying around. He's constantly sending emails when we're hanging out, so I let my curiosity take hold and went through his email.
I found out that he emails an ex daily and occassionally talks on the phone (we almost never talk on the phone) with her — sometimes about their shared careers, sometimes about fights we've had. He's even forwarded emails I sent him — which I thought were just between us. What was most shocking was that he had sent her an email earlier that night saying that my penchant for "bad tv, celebrity gossip, and general sloth" were driving him out of his mind that day — a day when we'd been snowed in. It's driving me nuts to know he's not just being critical of me in his head, he's also telling people and not telling me. I can't risk the relationship by admitting I snooped, but I'm heartbroken by his judgments of me behind my back.
What should I do?
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