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I Compare Myself to His Ex

Group Therapy: I Compare Myself to His Ex

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My boyfriend was engaged to his ex girlfriend — they were together for 4 years (off and on) — and he was truly in love with her, and recently got over her before dating me. When we first started dating, my boyfriend told me he likes "bad girls," but when I told him I couldn't figure out why he was with me, he assured me that he likes me for me.

I've looked at her Facebook pictures, and she is the total opposite of me. She has dark hair, tattoos, dresses slutty, has a tongue piercing, has no job, didn't go to college, rides a motorcycle, and has perfect skin and a really good body (way skinnier than me). I understand that guys are attracted to different types of girls, but I can't help but feel that my boyfriend wishes I was more like her.

He told me once, "You dress really conservatively," and I was wearing a tshirt and jeans! When we go out, he will suggest things for me to wear that look exactly like something his ex would wear. He wants to buy a motorcycle, and wants me to go with him to take a class to learn how to drive one (which I want to do, but he suggested it). He sometimes asks why I got rid of my belly button piercing. There are just a lot of things that make me think his ex was more his "type" than I am. I don't feel like he is trying to change me; he is definitely supportive of whatever I want to do or not do. I know he chose to be with me, but still, it makes me question if I'm what he really wants as a total package.

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