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I Don't Know If I Should Move In With Boyfriend

Group Therapy: Boyfriend Wants Me to Move In, but I Don't Know If I Want to Anymore

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 and a half years. Last December, I graduated from college and moved back to my hometown (which is where he lives). I REALLY wanted him to ask me to move in, but he'd just bought his house and was living alone for the first time in his life, and he told me that he'd love to live with me, but he wanted some time to live alone since he'd never done it before.

So I moved into an apartment. I only signed a 6-month lease, which has since expired, but I am now on a month-to-month-type deal. Now he's decided that he wants me to move in — he's lonely. No, I don't have a lease to break on my apartment, but #1, I'm settled here and I basically just now got everything exactly how I like it, and #2 I want him to ask me to move in because he wants me to live with him, not just because he's lonely.

I'm torn because I really want to live with him. I didn't just want to move in with him after graduating out of convenience. I really feel like he's THE ONE. I want to take that next step in our relationship, but I can't tell if he's wanting that, too, or if he just wants a roommate. I mean, I know that he loves me, but I really don't know if he is asking me to move in for the right reasons.

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