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I Found Out My Boyfriend Is Going to Propose

"I Found Out That My Boyfriend Is Going to Propose"

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for three and a half years. We are both in our late 20s. I recently found out that he bought an engagement ring to give to me (he had it custom designed by a jeweler who is a close friend of the family), and I am so beyond excited. I love him to death and I am so happy that he is ready to take this step with me. The problem is now I am expecting him to propose, and every time we go to our favorite restaurant or some romantic place, when he doesn't propose I am left very disappointed.

I don't know how to stop feeling this way. I cannot trick myself into forgetting about it and I just keep getting upset, even though I don't want to. I know I should just wait, but what if it takes him a few months to get up the courage? I know plenty of guys who have had the ring a long while before proposing . . . He's not going to EVER propose if I keep getting upset every time he takes me on a nice date! Should I just tell him that I know? I feel like that would upset him and take a lot of the fun out of it for him.

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xxinfinitepleasurexy xxinfinitepleasurexy 4 years
I love you, Space Kat. Too bad you're already married.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 4 years
I picked my own ring with my boyfriend about four months before he proposed. It was frustrating, but try to keep the perspective that it's a nice life when these are your problems. Honestly, I 'm glad he took the time and waited it out to give me the creative, surprise proposal I've always wanted, rather than something boring.
Gabriela-Une-Vie-Saine Gabriela-Une-Vie-Saine 4 years
My best friend recently went through the same thing- after six years of dating, he told her he'd bought the ring (dumb mistake), and she went nuts for three or four months about it. He WILL propose, but worrying about it will take the enjoyment out of your relationship and the proposal itself. Relax. It will happen soon, it will be amazing, and you'll wonder why you made such a big deal out of it :)
wolfjinx25 wolfjinx25 4 years
You shouldn't be upset. He will propose when the time is right for him to do it. My fiance did the same thing to me. I thought he was going to propose on my birthday because I know he had the ring. Turns out he waited until we had a weekend getaway to do it. He did it at the right time and the right place - at sunset on the beach at our favorite location. Honestly, I couldn't have been any happier. Your boyfriend will propose, just relax and wait. You'll appreciate it when it does happen. Trust me. :)
henna-red henna-red 4 years
Chill out. It's not real until he asks. When he feels it's right, he'll ask. When he has worked up his courage, he'll ask. If it takes him a few months, then that's what it takes. He may have a specific plan in mind. Whatever, let him get there in his own time, his own way.
Pazuzu Pazuzu 4 years
You know hes going to propose so just hang in there, enjoy your dates! I know how you feel, that build up that something exciting is about to happen, and the sadness when it doesnt. Don't tell him you know, that will hurt his feelings. Maybe give him hints, tell him how you cant wait to start your lives together, maybe hes worried you'll say no. Give him confidence but mostly be patient! You'll get there soon, he waiting to plan the perfect proposal, just enjoy your time together.
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