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The real problem is me going away. She has decided to keep the child, which is her choice, and is due in December. By that time, however, I will be overseas for another 9-10 months, and then work (most likely military) will probably not be anywhere near where she lives. I have no feelings for her, but this child is tearing me apart inside. I grew up in a very loving and stable 2-parent household, but know I cannot give the same to this child, since I refuse to give up my career and have no feelings for the baby's mother. I know that I can help support the child financially, but that was never the issue. It is quite possible that I may not even be in the area for the next several years. What can be done? I just feel like I am doomed to be a "dead-beat" dad, even though I feel like I don't want to be. Please, no "just man up and stay there" comments. Doesn't help. I have a career, and I love it, and I refuse to stop what I love for the next 18 years to do a miserable job.
Second thought: There is the slight chance that I may move back to the area if work allows it. My second thought goes back to the girl who is having my child. She is a nice person, but I really just don't like her all that much. If I do move back and get to see my child, do I owe her anything more than just pretending to be friendly?