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Most of the time I'm thrilled by the idea of marriage and starting a family with my current significant other. But when it comes time to really consider it, when it gets closer to reality, I panic and I'm not sure why. It's hard for me to even discuss it, it causes me so much discomfort I could just cry.
I'm prone to anxiety, so it's difficult for me to determine whether there is a legitimate reason for my hesitance or not. Any change can be scary. It's a big step. How much anxiety is normal?
When searching for help for commitment phobia, the advice is usually to seek therapy and end the relationship, don't force it. I don't think I totally fit the description of a commitment-phobe. Do you think this is an issue I can work out within the relationship? Where do I start? Any insight? FYI, we've been together for 5 years, and marriage and family is definitely the direction he wants to go.