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I Have a Crush on My Friend

Group Therapy: I Have Feelings For My Friend

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About a year ago, Matt started working at the same casual job I was in. Different sectors, but we got the chance to chat a little during our shifts. Instantly, I was drawn to his character. He seemed sweet, funny and genuine; a year on that first impression was dead on. Because we have close mutual friends we started hanging out at group outings and getting to know each other better and better. We've become close friends, he messages me often and if I don't hear from him for even a day it feels peculiar.

Late last year I went away on a holiday and I realized I had feelings for him, not long after I came home, he went on his own adventure overseas with his friends but even when he was gone I heard from him pretty often, getting lengthy emails and the like. Well, now we're both home and we've continued being friends but this is getting harder and harder for me. I am at a point where I cannot tell what he thinks or feels about me. Sometimes I feel like I'm getting signals — lingering hugs, constant messages, little outings . . . but I could be completely misreading all of this out of sheer hope. He is after all a really sweet, friendly guy and a good friend.

He is painfully shy. He has never had a girlfriend, and to the best of my knowledge never really pursued a girl. I don't want to ruin our friendship, but I'm at a point where I need to know if he has any kind of feelings for me. The thing is though, I feel terrified of asking him and making a complete ass of myself. Surely if he did like me, maybe he would have made a move? Shy plus shy, equals a whole lot of confusion.

How can I tell him how I feel and find out how he feels without jeopardizing an important friendship? I'm seeing him this weekend for a group get together.

Any advice would be so greatly appreciated.

xx Rose

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