My husband and I have been together for 8 years and as of lately I've seen things that are making me wonder if he's having an affair with his secretary. My husband and I work together now and I've been noticing that he spends more time in his secretary's office than in his own. She's always strutting around him and all I can do is observe and pray that he doesn't stray (if he hasn't already). She is divorced, has 2 kids, and she is short and overweight. I too am short, but I am fit and cute. I also find it rude that she has not made any effort to be cordial to me. I've expressed this to my husband and he denies any wrongdoing from his part. I don't know what to do anymore. I can't keep fighting for someone that I might have already lost. The eye contact that they give each other, just breaks my heart every single day that I come to work. Heartbroken Betty
Dear Heartbroken Betty
Don't be so hard on yourself - its rough working and living with the same person. Not to mention that marriage itself is a work in progress. Your husband needs to address how his relationship with this woman makes you feel. He should be more aware that constantly talking to her about non-related work topics makes you uncomfortable - doesn't he have any respect for you? It's really hard to fire someone. I know that is what you are secretly hoping for, but it's probably not going to happen. You can however suggest that she be promoted or assigned to someone else. Unfortunately, that's not going to stop him if he's already cheating, but at least you won't have to look at it. It will also give you the chance to calm down and really look at the signs he is sending out. You may also actually get some work done again! You've got to talk to him about his level of happiness in your marriage. It's not fair to make you feel this insecure.