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So I'm in college right now, which is the prime age for sexual endeavors I suppose. I turn 20 in January (so I guess I'm not THAT old. . . ), and I will still be a virgin. I hear my friends talking about taking their birth control and stuff, or talking about their boyfriends (I don't have one), and I get reallllly down. I'm not saving myself for marriage, and I don't look down on people who have sex, but I just feel so out of the loop. Sometimes I feel like if I really wait for someone I want to lose it to, then I'll be like 23, and then guys will all wonder WHY I'm still a virgin, and then run away . . . And I also just have the URGE to do it. Hello hormones.
I'm no prude, I'm not religious, and I'm not ugly by a long shot. But I still feel like a big loser. But then again...I'd also feel like a big loser if I gave my V-card to someone unworthy, or if I got pregnant or something.
I'm not sure what to say. Has anyone here ever felt this way? Has anyone here waited to have sex and have it turn out to be a good decision. . .?
What if graduate college and I'm still a virgin, and I have to go out into the real world being so inexperienced? What a joke. I'd cry.