I have been very close friends with this guy around the corner from my house for about four years. We do everything together. We love being with each other and so we spend most of our time together. We tell each other everything and I think that he is just perfect.
Neither one of us are dating anyone right now so we always get the "why don't you guys try dating each other?" question. We both just say that it's because we are such good friends but lately I have been asking myself that same question!
The more we spend time together the more I am beginning to like him in that way. Sometimes I think he feels the same way, but other times I am just not sure. Do you think that I should talk to him about this? I am kind of scared. If I say something to him, I run the risk of losing my best friend, but if I keep quiet, I run the risk of losing my potential Mr. Right. I am so confused. Good Pal Val
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Dear Good Pal Val
Go for it, life is too short and good men are hard to find. If I were you, I'd snatch him up while you can. Speaking your mind is a risky and bold, but could be well worth it in the long run. Trust your feelings and remember that he's your friend because you can openly and freely talk to him about anything.
Always prepare yourself for the worst, but the worst is your current situation. You'll always be best buds so if more is what you want, then you've got to try and get it! I know this could be an awkward conversation and it could totally catch him off guard. How about trying this out. You could say:
"This is so uncomfortable for me, but I really want to talk to you about our frienship. Recently, I've developed feelings for you that go above and beyond our friend zone. I've debated whether or not I should say anything to you about this, but I think it's time to come clean in the hopes that you share my feelings."
Oftentimes, Mr. Right is literally right in front of your face but you are too close to realize it. I hope this works out for you guys. If not, and he just wants to stay friends, unfortunately you are going to have to accept his wishes.
Be as graceful as possible about it and allow yourself some space to heal. Once you are OK again, go back to being friends. Good luck. It would really be wonderful to see you end up with your best friend; it's every girl's dream come true.