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I'm Not Sure of His Intentions

"Does He Have the Right Intentions?"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

I gave an acquaintance my number a few months ago. He texted me a few times and eventually, when we were both free, he asked me if I'd go on a date with him. At first, he really carefully asked me to go to his family cabin with him for a week, which I declined because I felt comfortable. Recently, he asked me to go to a dance party in town, so I said yes. He sounded surprised and when I asked who else was going, he said a few friends and one of his sisters would be there too. I didn't back out, but it felt kind of confusing — was it a date or a buddy outing? I went, he picked me up, he paid for everything, and he stuck by my side for the night. I have to admit that I felt awkward, so I didn't act like my usual, independent, friendly self. I smiled most of the night and remained open to the venue and music, but I also suspected he might have some history with one of the girls there. She was unusually cold to me and was giving him longing stares. I tried talking to a few people and gave him some space, but it was not easy at all. He stuck with me but made no moves or efforts to dance with me, so we left at the end of the night, went for a hot chocolate, and talked a bit more. We ended the date and he reached in to hug me and offered an open invitation for our next date. He asked me to go visit a new condo he'd just bought.

Now I like him, but his first effort to get me to a cabin for a week made me nervous that he may just want to sleep with me. Then the introduction to his family member was nice, but it was offset by the girl he seemed to have a history with. Still, I did try to make the best of the situation, and there were new things I learned about him that I liked. He was surprisingly respectful for a guy that I thought only wanted me to share a bed in a cabin, but this entire outing confused me. The next morning, I texted him to say that I had fun, and a few days later, I made a date suggestion. He then took a few days to respond, and he did not confirm anything but said he would call me for sure. Should I have initiated the post-date text and even offered a date suggestion? I guess I did it in case he'd noticed my discomfort and I'd come off as shutting him down. I'm intrigued but confused. What do you think?

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