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The Incredibly Shrinking Vagina

Dear Sugar
I was in my first serious relationship for 2 1/2 years and we broke up five months ago. He was the first guy I ever slept with and ever since the break-up, I haven't been ready to have sex with anyone else. I hope you don't think I am silly for asking this, but can your vagina shrink if you aren't sexually active? And if so, will sex hurt when I start "doing it" again? Abstinent Abby

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Dear Abstinent Abby
You aren't silly for asking this question, in fact, I just read about this same kind of thing in a back issue of Cosmo. Yes, your vagina can change a little bit, but nothing that will effect sex in a bad way. It just may feel tighter the first go around again.

Think about how it feels when you aren't sexually active and you are putting a tampon in for the first time during your period. It doesn't hurt, it just feels a little bit less stretchy and adaptable, right? This is the same kind of thing.

Your vaginal muscles are just like any other muscles in your body. They definitely loosen up if you are using them more often and having regular intercourse and they'll tighten up a bit if you are going through a period of abstinence.

Try using a lubricant the first time you are going to have sex again. That will help ease any discomfort and before you know it - those vaginal muscles will be back in shape again.

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caligirl1201 caligirl1201 9 years
I don't mind pool or outdoor sex with a blanket of course, maybe I'll work up to shower sex with Tim.
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
anna k is going through an anorexic phase at the moment. she looked positively skeletal in the last pics i saw of her. her perfectly proportioned chest (not too big, not too small) were no more. i'm probably too prissy for it, but it sounds nice in theory. i think i could start hooking up with someone in a bathroom, but it'd have to be a very clean one (lysol and all) in one of our homes and lead to hours of lovin in the bedroom.
caligirl1201 caligirl1201 9 years
EP plus you two are probably more attractive than them now. They've kind of let themselves go. I would do bathroom sex but I need comfort so it's not for me
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
oooooh. enrique-anna k moment in the bathroom. except at gym!
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
cali, i didn't even talk to him. i just thought "oh, he's kinda cute" and then he talked after i just walked past him and i was all of a sudden in lust. i'll have to skank it up at the gym this week.
caligirl1201 caligirl1201 9 years
Well he's a normal young human guy so I say go out for drinks and wear something skimpy. Take him home with you or go to his place or if you want hump him in the bathroom. I hope you do get him by Friday. You must blog it my dear.
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
cali, i would! how do i seduce this guy? i have to sleep with him by Friday. i enjoy setting goals for myself.
caligirl1201 caligirl1201 9 years
Good idea EP but it would be so obvious and I really like looking at my Timothy during our sessions so I won't do it.
caligirl1201 caligirl1201 9 years
Night Mrs. M darling
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
night love
Pinkperfectpixie Pinkperfectpixie 9 years
I think my puter is about to crash, so I am going to say G'night to my sugars! Love to all! XO, Lizzy
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
cali, you should hump him WHILE watching PB because then you can look at Wentworth at the same time!
caligirl1201 caligirl1201 9 years
Wow EP, I felt that way about my Timothy he's very humpable and I guess that's true. Also my man Went comes back to TV on Monday so Tim's going to get the humping of a lifetime that I would have given Went if I knew him. Maybe I just have an overactive libido.
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
It's so odd Cali. I'm generally not that into it these days because it hurts but the slightest things will get me worked up once in a while. Like I saw this guy who was cute ("I'd hit it" cute, but not stunning, leave-me-breathless cute) and I heard him talk. Deep voice. British-Australian hybrid accent (think Hugh Jackman) and I wanted to hump his leg. By wanted, I mean I still do and if I could, I'd be riding him right now (for the next 3 nights then he does all the work) :)
Pinkperfectpixie Pinkperfectpixie 9 years
Ohhh I see now EP...wow!
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
PPP, when you stay on a bike for 2 hours, the circulation to the goods is screwed up because your weight is partially on them in an unnatural way. Lance Armstrong's testicular cancer makes total sense to me now
Pinkperfectpixie Pinkperfectpixie 9 years
Pinching? Oh great, now you are scaring me!!!
caligirl1201 caligirl1201 9 years
Probably so, well I refrained for a while because I was busy and had gotten sick of guys but I'm glad to be back in the pleasure club now.
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
I do a lot of spinning. The pinching is probably why I don't care to have sex much these days.
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
I'm flexible Cali. Just lazy. I like the experience, but with minimal effort on my part. I'm always appreciative of effort on his part, so that counts for something.
Pinkperfectpixie Pinkperfectpixie 9 years
I already do Yoga, and Pilates...and Billy Blanks is my hero...teee heee!
caligirl1201 caligirl1201 9 years
You girls better pick up yoga.
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
well, i do it the first 3 times i sleep with a guy and it's gone forever.
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 9 years
good for you cali. i'm too lazy for that.
Pinkperfectpixie Pinkperfectpixie 9 years
Saddle em' up cowgirl...
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