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I've Been Duped

I've Been Duped

Dear Sugar
Last year I was living with a really good friend of mine who I was constantly helping out all of the time. She hit a little bit of a rough patch in life and so I helped her out. Fortunately, I was able to get her a job, I was there for her when her father tragically and suddenly passed, I drove her to Planned Parenthood to get an abortion and I supported her during an unhealthy relationship...the list could go on forever.

I soon realized everything I was putting into this relationship was not coming back to me and I had to stop making excuses for her and move out. When I broke the news of my move, she was very upset and made the separation difficult. She agreed to give me cash for the furniture we split together, so I took nothing with me and NEVER saw that money.

The last time I called her asking for the money, she bit my head off and called me cheap. After her nasty comments, I didn't even care about the money, I just wanted out of this friendship. A year went by and she called me out of the blue. We made small talk and she told me she had moved out of our apartment, which meant she got our security deposit, $750 of that being mine.

It was nice to hear my old friend was doing well considering her terrible year but the fact remains that at the end of the day, she's stolen from me. So now what should I do? How can I get my money back? Taken For a Ride Ronda

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Dear Taken For a Ride Ronda
I am sorry you are dealing with such a disrespectful friend; it almost sounds like she is punishing you for leaving her, which is no excuse. I hate to say it, but chances are you are not going to see your money. Your friend is going through a very selfish time in her life right now and can't see how she is hurting you at the same time.

Was your name on the lease? If so, you legally have the right to get back your share of the deposit, but if not, you are left with your roommate's good word. Since your friend reached out to you, she probably misses you. Let her know that you are sorry for her tumultuous year, but you have no intention of rekindling your friendship until she pays up.

You were an amazing friend to this girl and I am sorry you are being hurt like this. You have done the right thing by distancing yourself from her and hopefully after showing her you want no part of her stingy ways, she will reconsider and show you the money. Good luck.

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