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I've Never Been Kissed, but Don't Want Pity

"I've Never Been Kissed, but Don't Want Pity"

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The other day I was watching Kourtney and Kim Take New York (I know, I know not the best show to be watching) and they mentioned how Kim felt sorry that her friend has never felt /been in love before. This reminded me a lot of myself. I'm 20, approaching 21, and have never had a boyfriend, been kissed or have engaged in anything physical or even emotional with a guy. I mean, I have liked guys and been close to relationships, but one just hasn't happened yet.

My friend came over the other day and asked if I have ever kissed anyone because she knows that I've never been in a relationship. When I said no, she made an "I feel sorry for you" face. She then said, "Awww! I could hook you up with someone!" She really felt sorry for me, but I don't want her to. I told her not to bother because I preferred my situation and I didn't need anyone (I kinda felt like the old lady from the Swiffer commercial).

However, I'm not fine, and I do feel sorry for myself, I just try not to show it. I don't want anyone else to feel sorry for me, though, especially not my close friends. I used to be so proud of not ever having a boyfriend in high school, but now it's just plain embarrassing. I really don't know what to do to stop people from feeling sorry for me or seeing me as an innocent girl who has no experience.

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