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Should Judges Force Couples to Divorce?

A New York City couple filed for divorce, but asked for the case to be dismissed after putting their tattered marriage back together. Yet a Supreme Court justice in Queens said they're getting the divorce they filed for, whether they love each other or not. Anything else is a waste of the court's time and money. His advice to them? Remarry.

"The remedy for these former litigants is to make new vows and a fresh start by remarrying," the judge wrote. "The court . . . congratulates the plaintiff and the defendant on their professed reconciliation."

"Professed reconciliation." I love it. Not surprisingly, the judge says he doubts the couple's rapprochement, as they're still not living together. The couple, of course, protests, saying they fear the stigma of divorce, which they really should have considered earlier!

Divorce lawyer Raoul Felder says the court is not government-subsidized marriage counseling. Considering all sorts of cases get thrown out every week, I question whether this is about saving money or making a statement. Do you think judges should force people who file for divorce to finalize it?

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lizkiernan lizkiernan 5 years
I'm with Amber on this one. There's a reason there's a waiting period before getting an official divorce, even if both parties agree on EVERYTHING. You only have to wait about 5 days after you fill out the paperwork for getting married, but you have to wait approximately 6 months before getting an official divorce. What does that say? Some people file too quickly, true. Maybe this couple should have waited, but we don't know the situation, or what happened.Plus, the article says that the judge questions their reconciliation, since they still haven't moved back in together yet. There's a ton of reasons why they might be taking things slow and not living together as of this moment. That's not his place to decide.The point is, 'making an example' of this couple, isn't going to deter anyone from filing divorce too quickly. Making the decision to divorce is so personal and difficult, the last thing that's going to be on anyone's mind is, 'oh, maybe I should wait in case I file and change my mind and the judge might force me to get divorced anyway.'
lizkiernan lizkiernan 5 years
I'm with Amber on this one. There's a reason there's a waiting period before getting an official divorce, even if both parties agree on EVERYTHING. You only have to wait about 5 days after you fill out the paperwork for getting married, but you have to wait approximately 6 months before getting an official divorce. What does that say? Some people file too quickly, true. Maybe this couple should have waited, but we don't know the situation, or what happened. Plus, the article says that the judge questions their reconciliation, since they still haven't moved back in together yet. There's a ton of reasons why they might be taking things slow and not living together as of this moment. That's not his place to decide. The point is, 'making an example' of this couple, isn't going to deter anyone from filing divorce too quickly. Making the decision to divorce is so personal and difficult, the last thing that's going to be on anyone's mind is, 'oh, maybe I should wait in case I file and change my mind and the judge might force me to get divorced anyway.'
amber512 amber512 5 years
I think it is lame of people to waste the court's time. But I have to agree it is up to the couple whether they want to remain married or not. Not a judge, not the government, not anyone else BUT that couple.
Rjs-baby-girl Rjs-baby-girl 5 years
I think that a divorce is a very serious thing and that people who change their minds should be able to do so and stop the process. It is not to the government to decide whether people should stay married or not.
marcied23 marcied23 5 years
i don't know if they're "white trash" or not, but the judge is right that if they feel they have reconciled then they should just get remarried and renew their vows...it seems pretty simple to me.
skigurl skigurl 5 years
I agree, it sounds like the couple in question is white trash and thought they wanted to get a divorce then decided against it, but they are not really just a nice normal couple who reconsiled - they are a couple who break up and get back together constantly and have an unstable relationship and take everyone in their path down with them.I've known great people who have seperated and then gotten back together, and they never filed for divorce before realizing months later they should be together (both are still happy and great by the way, married like 30 years each). But I also know this one white trash couple who always cry wolf and say they are getting a divorce and it's just shocking to think that decisions like that are made on a whim and you just run to everyone you know and tell them before you've thought it through.
skigurl skigurl 5 years
I agree, it sounds like the couple in question is white trash and thought they wanted to get a divorce then decided against it, but they are not really just a nice normal couple who reconsiled - they are a couple who break up and get back together constantly and have an unstable relationship and take everyone in their path down with them. I've known great people who have seperated and then gotten back together, and they never filed for divorce before realizing months later they should be together (both are still happy and great by the way, married like 30 years each). But I also know this one white trash couple who always cry wolf and say they are getting a divorce and it's just shocking to think that decisions like that are made on a whim and you just run to everyone you know and tell them before you've thought it through.
stephley stephley 5 years
This seems pretty specific to this stupid couple, not that judges have started to spontaneously end marriages.
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