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I think I have fallen in love with a friend of mine; actually one of my best friends. We spend a lot of time together and I always feel great whenever I am with her. She is currently dating a new guy and I have been finding myself very jealous of him.

I feel a very deep connection with my girlfriend, and most of the time I associate it with our closeness, but sometimes I am catching myself liking her more than a friend. She seems to be really happy with her boyfriend but I can't deny my feelings. Do you think that I should talk to her about how I feel? Lustful Liza

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Dear Lustful Liza
The line between friendship and lovers can be very tricky. Have you ever been in a lesbian relationship before? Has your friend? Have you considered that you may be experiencing feelings of jealousy since she's got a boyfriend now and has less time for you?

Many women develop "girl crushes" when they have strong feelings for other women in a nonsexual way. These feelings develop when you have a strong initial attraction to some one's personality, sense of style or demeanor in an adoring way. It often takes you by surprise how much you think about them and look up to them, however, once the infatuation dwindles, usually you are able to see the person as a friend.

Girl crushes can be somewhat confusing until they pass. Feelings such as excitement, nervousness and jealousy are all very common. However, If your feelings don't subside and you think that you are actually romantically attracted to her, then perhaps there is something worth exploring here.

I suggest that you give it a little bit more time. Seeing that your friend is in a heterosexual relationship, I would be as certain about your feelings before you talk to her since she most likely might not feel the same way toward you. Good luck.

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