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Dear Sugar
My boyfriend and I broke up about four months ago. I miss having him around, but the truth is that I am really having so much fun being single.

The problem is that since we've broken up I think I may never want to be in a committed relationship again. I know that people say that's how everyone feels when they break up with a long term boyfriend, but it's not that anymore.

Now that I'm completely over him and have gone on dates with different guys and I love it. I haven't been single since for about six years and now that I am twenty four I am enjoying being a single adult.

I can go to parties not have to worry about keeping my boyfriend entertained. I am just afraid that I'm going to be like Carrie from Sex And The City and never want to get married or settle down. Do you think it's normal to want to be alone? New Lease On Life Lisa

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Dear New Lease On Life Lisa
Wow, you should be a spokeswoman for "The Sunny Side of Break-Ups." I think it's fantastic that you are comfortable being alone and that you are embracing your independence and single-hood. It's a wonderful feeling to be happy about getting back in touch with yourself again. Power to you.

So many women become sad and depressed about break-ups, even when the guy wasn't so great for them and it's mainly because they are afraid to be alone. You are taking the opposite approach and it's really refreshing to meet someone who can see the bright side of a dark situation.

I think it's definitely alright to feel like you want to be alone for a while; but don't discount marriage forever. For some, it can be a truly wonderful and satisfying experience. Meeting the right person makes settling down wonderful. My advice to you is to wait and date until you meet that person and keep on doing what you're doing!

Just one last thing... Don't mistake Carrie on SATC for not wanting to settle down. She wanted to settle down very badly with Mr. Big, but he was the one who was never ready. Finally, when the timing was right (the very last episode), they seemed happy and content to commit to one another.

So the moral of the story is... kiss a lot of frogs until you find someone worthy enough to be your Prince! If and when you find him... I hope that you don't ever let him go.

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