My best friend and I hang out all the time. Many people say we are attached at the hip and refer to us as the dynamic duo. Neither one of us have ever had a serious boyfriend and always stick our noses up at the girls we know who ditch their friends the second they meet a guy.
Last month, my friend met someone that she liked when we were at a party. He seems cool, and they have been hanging out since that night. Although I don't see my friend as much as I used to, I am so happy she met someone. We have a standing date every Tuesday and Thursday which, no matter what, we keep.
Last week she canceled both days saying she wasn't feeling well, which is totally understandable, but she canceled this week as well. I heard from a mutual friend that she wasn't sick at all and she had been hanging out with her new guy every night. Not only does it hurt my feelings that she chose him over me, but that she lied about it.
I've always had a sore spot for liars and I am not sure what to do because I am just furious with her. If she wants to be with him, then why can't she just be straight with me about it? I shouldn't have to feel hurt by my best friend because she has a boyfriend. Am I being irrational? Jealous Jessamine
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Dear Jealous Jessamine
I can understand why you are upset, it is never fun to be lied too. Have you confronted your friend? Are you sure your source is reliable or is she trying to create drama? Some girls do a disappearing act when they meet a new guy even though they say they never would.
Take a deep breath and talk to your friend in a nonthreatening manor. People hate being caught in a lie so be prepared for her to be defensive. Tell her how happy you are she has met someone, but you are hurt and upset that she lied to you in order to spend more time with him.
Try suggesting that all three of you should hang out so you can get to know him better and hopefully she won't have to feel like she has to choose between the two of you. After the honeymoon phase wears off, she will be banging your door down for some much needed girl time.