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Long-Distance Boyfriend Demanding Sex Tapes

Group Therapy: Long-Distance Boyfriend Wants Sex Tapes

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I see my long-distance boyfriend approximately once every 6-8 weeks.  He has always enjoyed photography and lately whenever we see each other, he likes video taping and photographing me naked.  I don't mind once in a while, but lately he wants it each time and doesn't ask my permission first.  When I recently told him to put the camera away, he became extremely angry and refused to speak to me.  I later told him to ask my permission first and not use the camera or video me as much.  He again became very angry.  He said that it enhances the experiences, and because he refuses to masturbate or watch porn when we are not together, this is all he has.

I think it's pretty weird that he won't masturbate when he is alone, and I think he can visualize us instead of referring to video tapes.  He basically called me selfish for not doing what he wants me to do, and he told me I am not contributing to our sex life (although I have never refused sex with him and miss not having it in his absence) because I do not get Brazilians anymore or make elaborate sexual plans.  I have also never orgasmed when we've had sex.  He blames me for this, and told me if he doesn't mind me not orgasming (although I want to) then I shouldn't mind him videotaping me. However that works.

We've been dating for nearly three years now, and I'm annoyed that he wants to play these games.  I just want a normal sex life.  He's a nice guy for the most part, but I think he's crossing the line.

Any advice?

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